How to Turn Failure Into a Positive Part of Your Life

Have you ever wondered why some people handle failures so well? They take setbacks in stride and don’t let anything keep them from working towards their goals. How do they do this? Are these people that much tougher than you and me? Yes, they are. Well, yes and no.

You see, mental toughness is a complicated idea, not easily summed up by saying one person is more tough than the other. But in this regard, if we are comparing ways we handle failure, someone who takes it well is much more mentally tough in respect to failure than someone who doesn’t.

That’s because the ability to be resilient and bounce back from failure is one of the six attributes that make up mental toughness. Though, to build this form of mental toughness is not complicated. Those who are able to face failure head on and move right past it all have one thing in common… their perspective on failure.

How to Develop a Positive Perspective on Failure

Telling people to have a positive outlook on failure can be met with some resistance. The essence of failure means it’s not the result we want, so why should we feel positively towards it? I think this stems from the misconception that having a positive perspective means you want to fail.

Of course, we all would prefer to succeed every second. That’s just not how success works, in fact, the higher your goals, the more failures are likely to occur. But that doesn’t mean you have to want the failures.

Having a positive perspective means shifting the way failure impacts your life. Instead of allowing it to tear you down, you can choose to use it in a positive way. To do that, you need to begin thinking about failure quite differently.

“The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure.” – John C. Maxwell

Recognize What’s in Your Control 

After failure occurs, it’s natural to be consumed by anger. You may become angry with yourself, your environment, or the failure itself. This wave of anger typically manifests in you seeking control. None of us like to feel powerless, which is why anger becomes such a safe emotional response.

The angrier we become, the more control we seem to have. However, the control we aim to obtain rarely involves aspects of life that are actually within our power to control. This is when you begin to blame everyone else for your failures and think about all the things you could’ve changed or done differently to avoid the failure altogether.

At this point, though, there is no use focusing on the past or the cause of the failure (unless you are giving it attention as a way to learn). The more you become emotionally invested in the past or seek to control that which you cannot in the present, the more difficult handling failure will become.

So, what is in our control after suffering a setback or failure? Well, simply put, we are. How we react emotionally and what our next steps will be are the main areas in our control that need attention.

The failure has happened, accept it. Don’t spend too much time dwelling on the past or feeling self-pity for the misfortunes you faced. Right now, you have a wonderful choice to make, either continue to feel sorry for yourself and let anger consume you or decide you will handle the failure positively and focus on what’s in your control.

Next time you are faced with failure, try focusing on these key areas:

  • Your Thinking: What thoughts come to mind when you fail? Do you criticize yourself or do you use uplifting and positive self-talk?
  • Your Attitude: What’s your attitude when it comes to failure? Instead of taking it as a personal defeat, view it as a learning experience (more on this in the next section).
  • Your Attention: Are you giving focus to your past, going over all the things you could’ve done better? Or do you put all your attention and energy into improving yourself and progressing forward?
View Failure as a Learning Experience 

While we may not be able to control whether failure happens to us, it’s completely within our power to choose how we view failing. For some reason, we feel like failure must be viewed in a negative way.

Holding to this idea is what leads to an intense fear of failure. We build up all these negative and threatening consequences around failing, that it’s natural to become terrified of it happening to us.

Though, there is another option. We all know failure is going to happen, so it’s wise to begin using it to our advantage. All it takes to begin leveraging your failures is to alter your view of what it means to fail.

Instead of being afraid to fail and taking each one so personally, begin to view them as learning opportunities. Each time you fail, you grow one step closer to your goal. It can serve as an incredible opportunity to learn what does and doesn’t work and alter your approach accordingly.

Once you start to see failure as a lesson, your view of it becomes much more objective. You would not take a math lesson personally; you’d simply learn from it. Have the same mindset in terms of failure. See it as a mere lesson that’s actually positive, since it’s helping you inch your way closer to success.


Tips to Become a Winner in Life

become a winner in life

How and why you should become a winner in life!

Since ancient times, society has always praised  winners. Winning is and has become the central core of society , and everything that we do revolves around this one dynamic. And I just want to add a favorite quote “Winners never quit and quitters never win”.

The benefits of winning

Victory tastes very sweet and there are many advantages to winning, as the harder the win was, the sweeter the taste of victory is.  You start feeling better about yourself and you improve your confidence, you boost up your morale and your desire to win, becomes greater than the fear of losing.


So you ask how to become a winner?
Here you go – 9 killer tips to become a winner in life.

1. Set up specific goals, you need to know where you are going.

Imagine you are in a race, but you don’t know where is the finishing line, would you be able to win? No, you wouldn’t. That’s why you need a specific target, you need to know exactly what direction are you going in, and where  the finishing line is.  And learn to work towards something rather than working aimlessly.

2. You need to learn to take responsibility for your actions

You can’t blame others for your mistakes, and you can’t use excusesWinners are people that are self aware about their own mistakes, they understand that it’s their choices and decisions that brought them there. Winners don’t use excuses, they find solutions.

 3. Form a winning habit

Strange right? But that’s what you have to do. You have to form a winning habit, and habits are hard to develop. To form a winning habit, you need to start looking things at a different perspective, you have to look at them like challenges. You should try to challenge yourself daily, form a habit of doing every day something you couldn’t do before.

4. Don’t be afraid to fail

You shouldn’t be afraid to fail, what you should do is learn to accept your failures as a lesson. You shouldn’t let failing demotivate you, you should get the best out if it, and that’s the lesson and you should use that lesson as a guide to help you win next time.

5.  Be eager to learn every day

Try to learn something new every day, read a book or meet new people or do something different. Because when it comes to winning, having more knowledge is basically power.


9 Proven Success Factors That Can Accelerate Your Career and Life

9 Proven Success Factors That Can Accelerate Your Career and Life

Brian Tracy is a highly recognized and sought-after speaker, coach, trainer, and author who travels extensively around the world. His presentations and seminars cover a multitude of areas, including personal development, leadership, time management, public speaking, business, and sales training.

Tracy has discovered nine success factors proven to help you achieve the best life you can have–both personally and professionally. When you carry out some, or all, of the factors, you set yourself in the right direction to accelerate your accomplishments.

1. Education

Research shows that the highest-paid people are the ones who have an education and who know more than the average person. An educated person has the knowledge, insights, and facts about his or her field and knows the trends. Hence the importance of adopting learning as a lifelong habit.

2. Skill

The more extensive and honed your skill set becomes, the better the opportunities you’ll have to move ahead in your career. You can increase your skill set through your own experiences and also by studying.

3. Contacts

It’s very important that you cultivate and expand your network to a healthy number of contacts. This takes time and effort, and you must work at it constantly. Doors continually open and close. Having a network of people who support you and who are there for you is key to moving ahead in life.

4. Money

Being effective at managing money is vital. Having money enables you to grab opportunities that come your way. For example, if you’re in a job that you hate but have no money set aside, your options to move out of that situation are limited. When you have options, you have more freedom.

5. Good work habits

Good work habits enable you to be more productive; it’s about setting priorities and being proactive. Your capacity to boost your ROTI, or return on time invested, can allow you to achieve much more in less time. Being organized and careful has its rewards.

6. Positive mental attitude

You have the power to choose a positive mental attitude no matter what you’re going through. It’s your responsibility to look at the positive side of things–in every situation–and move ahead in life. A positive mental attitude benefits you personally and professionally.

7. Positive image

Dress for success. It’s true that people are led by appearances, and it’s no surprise that they tend to criticize you by the way you look, and you do the same. It’s completely worth investing your time and some of your resources in presenting yourself to others the best way you can to create a positive image.

8. Creativity

Creativity is a great way to start moving ahead in life; it’s something that you have to work at continually to move faster and achieve your dreams sooner rather than later. Keep in mind that many times it takes just one great idea to create wealth. Now imagine you have many great ideas.

9. Character

Respect, followed by trust, builds a strong foundation for your personal and professional relationships. Being self-disciplined and honest opens a world of opportunities for you. When people know you are a person of integrity, they are most likely to trust you and believe in you.